j . a . m . k . m . b: Brig's Birthday and Conference

Pres. Thomas S. Monson, Oct 2008

"This is our one and only chance at mortal life—here and now. The longer we live, the greater is our realization that it is brief. Opportunities come, and then they are gone. I believe that among the greatest lessons we are to learn in this short sojourn upon the earth are lessons that help us distinguish between what is important and what is not. I plead with you not to let those most important things pass you by as you plan for that illusive and non-existent future when you will have time to do all that you want to do. Instead, find joy in the journey—now.

... Professor Harold Hill, one of the principal characters in [The Music Man], voices a caution that I share with you. Says he, “You pile up enough tomorrows, and you’ll find you’ve collected a lot of empty yesterdays.”

f you have children who are grown and gone, in all likelihood you have occasionally felt pangs of loss and the recognition that you didn’t appreciate that time of life as much as you should have. Of course, there is no going back, but only forward. Rather than dwelling on the past, we should make the most of today, of the here and now, doing all we can to provide pleasant memories for the future.

Stresses in our lives come regardless of our circumstances. We must deal with them the best we can. But we should not let them get in the way of what is most important—and what is most important almost always involves the people around us. Often we assume that they must know how much we love them. But we should never assume; we should let them know. Wrote William Shakespeare, “They do not love that do not show their love.”³ We will never regret the kind words spoken or the affection shown. Rather, our regrets will come if such things are omitted from our relationships with those who mean the most to us.

Send that note to the friend you’ve been neglecting; give your child a hug; give your parents a hug; say “I love you” more; always express your thanks. Never let a problem to be solved become more important than a person to be loved. Friends move away, children grow up, loved ones pass on. It’s so easy to take others for granted, until that day when they’re gone from our lives and we are left with feelings of “what if” and “if only.” Said author Harriet Beecher Stowe, “The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and deeds left undone.”

In the 1960s, during the Vietnam War, Church member Jay Hess, an airman, was shot down over North Vietnam. For two years his family had no idea whether he was dead or alive. His captors in Hanoi eventually allowed him to write home but limited his message to less than 25 words. What would you and I say to our families if we were in the same situation—not having seen them for over two years and not knowing if we would ever see them again? Wanting to provide something his family could recognize as having come from him and also wanting to give them valuable counsel, Brother Hess wrote—and I quote: “These things are important: temple marriage, mission, college. Press on, set goals, write history, take pictures twice a year.”

Said one well-known author: “Both abundance and lack [of abundance] exist simultaneously in our lives, as parallel realities. It is always our conscious choice which secret garden we will tend . . . when we choose not to focus on what is missing from our lives but are grateful for the abundance that’s present—love, health, family, friends, work, the joys of nature, and personal pursuits that bring us [happiness]—the wasteland of illusion falls away and we experience heaven on earth.”

Said the Lord in a revelation given through the Prophet Joseph Smith, “In nothing doth man offend God, or against none is his wrath kindled, save those who confess not his hand in all things.”¹⁰ May we be found among those who give our thanks to our Heavenly Father. If ingratitude be numbered among the serious sins, then gratitude takes its place among the noblest of virtues.

Brothers and sisters, my sincere prayer is that we may adapt to the changes in our lives, that we may realize what is most important, that we may express our gratitude always and thus find joy in the journey."

Monday, April 7, 2008

Brig's Birthday and Conference

Yesterday was Brig's 2nd birthday. First of all it seems like we've had him for longer than that as so much has happened since the morning of his birth, but secondly, it's also gone very fast. Here's a short tribute to our little guy:

I remember that day very well: Late night awakening...hurry to

hospital...no epidural...lots of pain...25 minutes later our first boy...family is complete. Little did we know how great this small new member of the family would make our lives. He is a true joy for each of us in our own way, and for our family as a whole. We each seem to have developed over time our own "thing" with him, and it works for all of us to be an important part of his life. We love him so much and are so grateful to Heavenly Father for giving him to our family.

We celebrated with a mint chocolate football cake and a couple of fun friend families, but it was even better just being with each other for the whole weekend and talking about the "happy birthday boy". Ang took Brig to the zoo on Friday to start off his birthday celebrations, each of the kids helped wrap some presents and give them to him, and we had fun making cards and getting things ready. Of course he opened the biggest gift first, which was the football helmet from the complete Texas uniform we got him. And since he opened that first, all the rest of our birthday pictures show him proudly wearing the helmet - we should've known...

We were really happy to get Micah home y

esterday from her Disneyland dance team trip. She of course had a great time, and had many fun stories to tell and small gifts to give her sisters and Brig. We were relieved it all went well - we totally trust her, but when they're far away and completely outside our control you just hope everything's ok.

We also enjoyed General Conference. I particularly loved the Priesthood session. It is usually my favorite part, but this time for some reason it was extra good for me. I really felt the spirit strongly, and it was nice to have a reminder to shape up certain areas of my life and start worrying less about things that matter less (work, promotions, etc.), and more about things that are most important (family, testimony, calling, BYU football...just kidding). Mom was released from the Young Women's general board, so within the last month she and Dad have both finished up their callings and are now wondering what to do with themselves. It was fun to talk to them both last night - they're great.

A few more pictures:

2 comments:

Unknown said...: happy birthday brig!
can't believe you're already two!; April 7, 2008 at 10:23 AM
Whatcott said...: Happy Birthday Brigham! We're sure glad you are here and that you are so dang handsome.; April 8, 2008 at 7:46 PM

j . a . m . k . m . b

Pres. Thomas S. Monson, Oct 2008

Monday, April 7, 2008

Brig's Birthday and Conference

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