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Pres. Thomas S. Monson, Oct 2008

"This is our one and only chance at mortal life—here and now. The longer we live, the greater is our realization that it is brief. Opportunities come, and then they are gone. I believe that among the greatest lessons we are to learn in this short sojourn upon the earth are lessons that help us distinguish between what is important and what is not. I plead with you not to let those most important things pass you by as you plan for that illusive and non-existent future when you will have time to do all that you want to do. Instead, find joy in the journey—now.

... Professor Harold Hill, one of the principal characters in [The Music Man], voices a caution that I share with you. Says he, “You pile up enough tomorrows, and you’ll find you’ve collected a lot of empty yesterdays.”

f you have children who are grown and gone, in all likelihood you have occasionally felt pangs of loss and the recognition that you didn’t appreciate that time of life as much as you should have. Of course, there is no going back, but only forward. Rather than dwelling on the past, we should make the most of today, of the here and now, doing all we can to provide pleasant memories for the future.

Stresses in our lives come regardless of our circumstances. We must deal with them the best we can. But we should not let them get in the way of what is most important—and what is most important almost always involves the people around us. Often we assume that they must know how much we love them. But we should never assume; we should let them know. Wrote William Shakespeare, “They do not love that do not show their love.”³ We will never regret the kind words spoken or the affection shown. Rather, our regrets will come if such things are omitted from our relationships with those who mean the most to us.

Send that note to the friend you’ve been neglecting; give your child a hug; give your parents a hug; say “I love you” more; always express your thanks. Never let a problem to be solved become more important than a person to be loved. Friends move away, children grow up, loved ones pass on. It’s so easy to take others for granted, until that day when they’re gone from our lives and we are left with feelings of “what if” and “if only.” Said author Harriet Beecher Stowe, “The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and deeds left undone.”

In the 1960s, during the Vietnam War, Church member Jay Hess, an airman, was shot down over North Vietnam. For two years his family had no idea whether he was dead or alive. His captors in Hanoi eventually allowed him to write home but limited his message to less than 25 words. What would you and I say to our families if we were in the same situation—not having seen them for over two years and not knowing if we would ever see them again? Wanting to provide something his family could recognize as having come from him and also wanting to give them valuable counsel, Brother Hess wrote—and I quote: “These things are important: temple marriage, mission, college. Press on, set goals, write history, take pictures twice a year.”

Said one well-known author: “Both abundance and lack [of abundance] exist simultaneously in our lives, as parallel realities. It is always our conscious choice which secret garden we will tend . . . when we choose not to focus on what is missing from our lives but are grateful for the abundance that’s present—love, health, family, friends, work, the joys of nature, and personal pursuits that bring us [happiness]—the wasteland of illusion falls away and we experience heaven on earth.”

Said the Lord in a revelation given through the Prophet Joseph Smith, “In nothing doth man offend God, or against none is his wrath kindled, save those who confess not his hand in all things.”¹⁰ May we be found among those who give our thanks to our Heavenly Father. If ingratitude be numbered among the serious sins, then gratitude takes its place among the noblest of virtues.

Brothers and sisters, my sincere prayer is that we may adapt to the changes in our lives, that we may realize what is most important, that we may express our gratitude always and thus find joy in the journey."

Monday, March 30, 2009

Micah and I are both sick today. We both woke up this morning with some pretty gnarly stomach problems. I've worked a little from home, although I had a very serious sleep during the middle of the day, and I'm just starting to get my appetite back. In fact, I'm craving chips...

We had an awesome Sunday yesterday. As was probably the case with most of you, it was our Fast Sunday because of General Conference. It was my turn to conduct, so I also got to start the meeting with my testimony. I tried to relay a simple, unplanned testimony of the basics of the gospel, and I really felt the spirit as I was doing it. Then every single testimony after that was just amazing - there were no wandering travel-logs, no sob-story monologues, just great, spirit-filled testimonies the whole meeting. There were no awkward breaks, but it wasn't a stampede to the pulpit either, just good people feeling the need at different times to share their testimony. It was awesome.

Just want to say we continue to be grateful for really great friends. We have some friends who are facing different trials and hardships at the moment, and our hearts and prayers really go out to them. We think a lot about the Brady's and the Williams's in particular, but we are aware of others with important needs as well. If you're reading this, please know that you enrich our lives much more than we probably add to yours - so thanks for your examples, your goodness, and for your friendship.

1 comment:

Cammi said...: Thank you for the kind words, John. We sure appreciate all the love and support we have received. It has made such a difference - things have gone so smoothly and I'm certain it comes from all of the good wishes/prayers of our loved ones.

I really enjoy your blog (as do my mom and Lance.) I like that you discuss a variety of topics, have a witty sense of humor, tell funny stories about the kids (I love Brig's sense of humor)and keep us inspired with your exercise logs. It's so refreshingly different from all the "MOMMY BLOGS" out there! So, thank you for the good read each week!

Hope you guys are doing great. We sure miss everyone. We get a little more homesick as each month passes. Hopefully we will be home soon - HEALTHY and happy!

Cammi; April 1, 2009 at 11:24 AM

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