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Pres. Thomas S. Monson, Oct 2008

"This is our one and only chance at mortal life—here and now. The longer we live, the greater is our realization that it is brief. Opportunities come, and then they are gone. I believe that among the greatest lessons we are to learn in this short sojourn upon the earth are lessons that help us distinguish between what is important and what is not. I plead with you not to let those most important things pass you by as you plan for that illusive and non-existent future when you will have time to do all that you want to do. Instead, find joy in the journey—now.

... Professor Harold Hill, one of the principal characters in [The Music Man], voices a caution that I share with you. Says he, “You pile up enough tomorrows, and you’ll find you’ve collected a lot of empty yesterdays.”

f you have children who are grown and gone, in all likelihood you have occasionally felt pangs of loss and the recognition that you didn’t appreciate that time of life as much as you should have. Of course, there is no going back, but only forward. Rather than dwelling on the past, we should make the most of today, of the here and now, doing all we can to provide pleasant memories for the future.

Stresses in our lives come regardless of our circumstances. We must deal with them the best we can. But we should not let them get in the way of what is most important—and what is most important almost always involves the people around us. Often we assume that they must know how much we love them. But we should never assume; we should let them know. Wrote William Shakespeare, “They do not love that do not show their love.”³ We will never regret the kind words spoken or the affection shown. Rather, our regrets will come if such things are omitted from our relationships with those who mean the most to us.

Send that note to the friend you’ve been neglecting; give your child a hug; give your parents a hug; say “I love you” more; always express your thanks. Never let a problem to be solved become more important than a person to be loved. Friends move away, children grow up, loved ones pass on. It’s so easy to take others for granted, until that day when they’re gone from our lives and we are left with feelings of “what if” and “if only.” Said author Harriet Beecher Stowe, “The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and deeds left undone.”

In the 1960s, during the Vietnam War, Church member Jay Hess, an airman, was shot down over North Vietnam. For two years his family had no idea whether he was dead or alive. His captors in Hanoi eventually allowed him to write home but limited his message to less than 25 words. What would you and I say to our families if we were in the same situation—not having seen them for over two years and not knowing if we would ever see them again? Wanting to provide something his family could recognize as having come from him and also wanting to give them valuable counsel, Brother Hess wrote—and I quote: “These things are important: temple marriage, mission, college. Press on, set goals, write history, take pictures twice a year.”

Said one well-known author: “Both abundance and lack [of abundance] exist simultaneously in our lives, as parallel realities. It is always our conscious choice which secret garden we will tend . . . when we choose not to focus on what is missing from our lives but are grateful for the abundance that’s present—love, health, family, friends, work, the joys of nature, and personal pursuits that bring us [happiness]—the wasteland of illusion falls away and we experience heaven on earth.”

Said the Lord in a revelation given through the Prophet Joseph Smith, “In nothing doth man offend God, or against none is his wrath kindled, save those who confess not his hand in all things.”¹⁰ May we be found among those who give our thanks to our Heavenly Father. If ingratitude be numbered among the serious sins, then gratitude takes its place among the noblest of virtues.

Brothers and sisters, my sincere prayer is that we may adapt to the changes in our lives, that we may realize what is most important, that we may express our gratitude always and thus find joy in the journey."

Friday, March 13, 2009

Brig got a haircut yesterday. His hair was pretty long, so we were in agreement it was about time. Unfortunately, it appears that the phrase "please cut it to a medium length" apprently means something different in some southeast Asian countries than it does here... So Brig's sporting a very short haircut, which doesn't necessarily look terrible, just MUCH different than we're used to. I mean, I could've just done that with my clippers...

Morgan had a little accident the other day - she was riding in the shopping cart, which apparently tipped over as they were going to the car, and dumped her onto the ground. She is now sporting a nice bruise on one cheek - no, not that cheek, the "lower" check - and has been having a hard time sitting down. She was concerned before leaving for school that the field trip bus today would have hard leather seats rather than soft cloth seats to sit on. I'm sure she'll be fine.

Angela did something funny this morning. She was so tired when getting up for her 6am run that she accidentally put on two different shoes and didn't notice until she got home. It's always nice to start the day off with a laugh...

Ang took the girls to our stake's YM/YW play last night and they came home just raving about it. They couldn't stop talking about how good it was, and how funny and talented all the kids were. It's nice to have good leaders who support that, and from what I hear it's a great missionary tool for the kids and their friends. I'm sure we'll all be back at the play at least one more time this weekend.

I got a new set of golf clubs - I'm really excited. I have been playing with my old clubs since the summer before I graduated from college - the first time - when we got them as an early graduation present. So for 11+ years I've been playing with the same, knock-off, cheap clubs. You think the technology might have changed just a little bit during that time? Yep, it has. So I did a lot of research, weighing price and performance, and I feel pretty darn happy with my new TaylorMade Burner driver & 3 wood, and my TaylorMade Tour Burner irons. What was even better, when we went to Golfsmith, we were able to get an additional 15% off the entire order, which was already discounted because they're last year's models. Sweet! I might even get out this afternoon to try them out...

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Pres. Thomas S. Monson, Oct 2008

Friday, March 13, 2009

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